As a woman, I’m constantly being faced with tough challenges. I’m always supposed to look good and smell even better, but people don’t understand how hard all of that can be to accomplish. You’ve got to have confidence as a lady; well, you need confidence regardless of what gender you happen to be. I’m just saying that because I know that there are just as many men out there that feel down about there bodies, as there are women. It’s a lot harder to get that perfect physique as a woman, and that’s mainly because of where our fat gets stored. We have fat deposits around our waists and thighs, because it’s meant to help us carry children when the time comes. It’s just the way nature works, so when life gives you lemons, make some delicious lemonade. Ladies that have finally built there bodies up to where they’d like will always talk about the trials (and tribulations). You don’t gain a fantastic physique from sitting around and eating chips, it just doesn’t work like that. You’ve got to be willing to put the work in, or else you’re not going to see the results that you wanted to see.
I used to be a relatively chunky woman, and although I was still attractive, I didn’t feel as comfortable in my skin as I would have liked. I knew that guys would eye me down at the bar, but as soon as they’d approach me, I would freak out and turn the other way. I had to teach myself how to stay calm in social situations, as well as how to take a compliment properly. If there was one thing I really had a tough time with, it was accepting the fact that some people found me pretty. I had to figure out how I was going to gather some confidence, and I learned that I just had to relax and let everything go.
Letting Go: How Do You Do It?
There are multiple ways to just “let go”, one of them being switching up your normal hairstyle. If you’ve got a hairstyle that you tend to use annually, it might be time to make a change. Changing the way your hair looks is always a great way to gather some confidence, as it feels like there is some new air being breathed into your life. The amount of choices when it comes to treating your hair differently is simply overwhelming, but with the right information and resources, you’ll know which style you want to go with. Another thing you can try doing is switching up the way you dress, you’ve just got to change the current routine that you’re getting into. Changing your routine is the only way to go about gaining confidence, as whatever you’re doing now is only lowering it.
The way you eat can really change how you look at yourself as well, because if you’re eating junk food on a daily basis it’s going to have an effect on your mind. It’s a known fact that foods high in fat and sugars have a negative effect on your brain, which means you could be thinking sluggishly throughout the day. This could result in a sense on confusion and anxiety, making it seem like you aren’t the most confident person in the world. I had to deal with this personally, as I had to take meditation classes in order to actually relax myself. I wouldn’t trade those classes for anything in the world, as they’ve drastically reduced the levels of stress I’ve had to deal with in the past.
Ask a Friend
Ask one of your closest friends for some advice, or maybe even just vent to them if you’d like. It’s a good thing when you’re talking about problems like this one, as the only way to get through insecurity is to talk about everything. I know, it doesn’t sound like the most ideal thing to be doing with your friends, but it’s a must! Odds are they’ve been in the exact same position that you’re in right now, so they’ll have some first-hand insight to offer up. Having a strong base of friends will allow you to improve upon your confidence levels quicker, because you can just do it through them. Go out to the movies with them and try to remain relaxed, everybody is only there to have a good time.
It can feel like everybody in the room is judging you at times, but it’s probably just in your head; that’s what you’ve always got to remember about being low on self-confidence.